Selfology- ‘the study of Self’

The Art of Surrender – Part 1

‘I’m ready to get married again’, I said to my friend Anita.  It was 22 November 2010, exactly 8 years ago from today and we were lying on the beach at one of the most beautiful places in the world, Paradise Beach, Langebaan in Cape Town.  We were having a lazy...

An Award Winning Author

I always wanted to be a best-selling Author, but I never quite thought about becoming an award-winning author, so when I received a gold award for one of my children's books, I was thrilled to bits!  I have never entered any of my services or books into any kind of...

Why is it so hard to ask for help? Part 1

When I moved permanently to England in 2011 after marrying my husband, I was in a situation where I had no earthly possessions.  I literally moved here with the clothes in my bags, all the books I could carry, my kindle and my laptop.  Because I had not planned on...

Do You Fear Being You?

Does your fear of being you hold you back from living your life the way you so desperately want to? At the beginning of this year, I planned a Face Your Fears bootcamp, ironically as each day drew closer to the bootcamp I found that I had to deal with my own fears of...

How Having a Purpose Can Change Your Life

I was having a conversation with my husband the other day, he came home feeling a little blue and kept asking the question ‘what is the purpose of all of this, what is it that I am aiming for?  In the past we had spoken about goals and set some for ourselves which...

How Does Your Relationship Make You Feel?

Genuine love means respecting the humanity of the other person, wanting what is best for him or her and supporting the other person’s self-esteem and independence. Abuse is the opposite of love, if a person abuses you; they are demonstrating that they only care about...

Time to be Brave

The time has come for me to stand up again and to be brave, again!  As I write this blog I am inspired by Sara Bareilles song ‘Brave’ You can be amazing You can turn a phrase into a weapon or a drug You can be the outcast Or be the backlash of somebody's lack of love...

Putting what you Believe into Action

Following up on my blog from yesterday where I spoke about how some of your Personal Power comes from belief.This vlog is all about how you need to put that belief into action! I also tell a short story of how I had to do this myself and the very surprising result of...